This is me, and that hottie in the lower right corner is my wife. She took this picture of us in Long Branch, NJ on July 4th, 2016. She calls me her Ricky, and she’s my Lucy. I gotta admit, I look a little like Desi Arnaz in this pic, which is awesome, because, let’s face it, he’s a good lookin’ dude.
My Desi-good looks notwithstanding there are some other fun parallels to our Ricky-and-Lucy-ness. My wife is, as she says, “the fun one.” Yeah, she’s quirky and playful, and I’m pretty much always Mr. Serious. But if you ask our kids (we have a 13-year old son and a 10-year old daughter) they always say that I am the fun one. They do it primarily to get my wife’s goat. We tease a lot in our household. Ricky and Lucy are icons. She calls me her Ricky. I like being her Ricky, and she’s my Lucy.
Here’s what this is all about. I’ve had a life dream (not to be confused with a life-long dream) for the past seven years now, and that is to go to law school. That dream has evolved as I’ve grown and learned and experienced. My dream has become our dream. So, here’s our dream in a nutshell: To live in New York City for at least three years while I attend New York University School of Law.
Now, there’s a lot to unpack here, and eventually I’ll get to it all. The idea to blog my experience in attaining this life dream wasn’t my own; it was my best friend’s idea. Let’s call him “Westy.” Yesterday, when I was bouncing my Life-Begins-at-48 plan off of Westy, he said I should blog it. I thought it was a great idea. I’ll be unpacking everything in upcoming posts, so if you’re interested, stay tuned. It’s been a great ride so far, and it’s only getting faster.
There are variables, hurdles and obstacles to achieving this dream, and who knows if it’ll pan out the way I’m hoping. Instead of NYU Law, it could be Fordham Law. Instead of NYC it could be Washington DC (Georgetown, or George Washington University). Instead of 48, I could be 53, or, it could end up that it never even happens at all. As I say, lots of variables and challenges. What do we do with the kids? How do we pay for the kids’ college education and my law education? Why would I leave a great career early and forfeit a full pension and benefits? What is my Lucy going to do? What of our aging parents who may need taking care of? Don’t we need to be millionaires to live in NYC?
So, as the weeks and years pass by I’ll be updating milestones in this journey, sharing my road map and plans along the way, and explaining what we’re doing and why we’re doing it. But one last thing needs mentioning. Throughout my life I’ve kept a lot of my plans and dreams to myself. The reason for this is two fold; (1) I am constantly dreaming, so to share every “idea” and dream that pops into my head would be rather exhausting for my friends and family, and (2) if I advertise my dreams and say, “I’m gonna do this, or I’m gonna do that”, and then I don’t do “this” or “that”, I feel like a buffoon. Here’s a brief example:
This past spring I had it in my noodle that I was going to write a book. I even got so far as creating a thoughtful outline for this book. I felt as if I had taken enough of a substantial step towards actually doing the thing I had it in my head to do, so I shared it with some friends…
“I’m going to write a book”, says I.
“Oh yeah?”, says they. “About what?”, they ask.
“On the concept of justice as it relates to modern day policing”, says I.
“Nice”, says they. And a conversation ensued about this book I was going to write for the next half-hour.
Wanna know where I’m at in that book-writing process? I don’t even know where my thoughtful outline is anymore.
So I’m feeling a little vulnerable here by sharing this dream even though its so far out. And as far as I’m concerned it’s a lofty dream at that – not one easily accomplished. It’d be easier to keep it on the diggy low instead of outing myself as a naive buffoon with endless hopes and plans that never come to fruition.
I could say that by sharing this I hope to inspire others to reach for their dreams, and I could probably sound like a pretty solid guy for saying something like that. But I’m sharing it because I’ve always wanted to start a blog and Westy’s idea seemed a good one to me.
Some of you will recall that I already have a blog, scarce with activity though it is, but this new blog gives me a reason to actually keep up with blogging, and perhaps even establish a little following, which would encourage me to continue writing, which I love to do. So by sharing, even though I’m potentially exposing yet another failed dream fading away into obscurity, I’m finally achieving another dream I’ve had for a long time – to start a decent blog.
It’d be ironic if after a few posts this turned into another one of my vaporous whims. So let’s hope that doesn’t happen. But one thing I know is this: I’ll always have my Lucy (not her real name by the way), and I’ll always be her Ricky. So life ain’t all that bad, yeah?